Your marriage will lose its magic. Don’t try to get it back.

“Space [and] science fiction still bore me.”

— Astronaut Frank Borman

The bored astronaut

Marriage: an unremarkable trip to the moon

When the magic disappears

The ordinary wonder of matrimony

The great sex… is a given. When you have an affair you already know you will have passionate sex — the urgency, newness and illicit nature of the affair practically guarantee that.

I look at my parents and at how much simpler their lives are at the ages of 75, mostly because they haven’t marred the landscape with grand-scale deceit. They have this marriage of 50-some years behind them, and it is a monument to success. A few weeks or months of illicit passion could not hold a candle to it.

If you imagine yourself in such a situation, where would you fit an affair in neatly? If you were 75, which would you rather have: years of steady if occasionally strained devotion, or something that looks a little bit like the Iraqi city of Fallujah, cratered with spent artillery?

The Unromantic Lover

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